I think there are 3 "agendas" when it comes to the question "should [some] men be allowed into women's spaces?".Thank you for bringing absolute sensibility to this thread.
Imo a topic like this should be so clear on safety grounds alone that those who don’t seem to grasp this
have other agenda and I have lost any respect for.
1. "No" = a person who is in touch with reality.
2. "Yes" = a person who is out of touch with reality, or perhaps understands the reality but is prepared to deny it because they want to be seen as A Good Person / not a bigoted transphobe.
3. And then there's the person who knows the reality, can't bring themselves to deny it completely, but still wants to be seen as A Good Person etc, so their answer is "maybe, it depends, sometimes, it's not a big issue..."