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Two separate threads.
Things that make you sad.
Things that make you feel old.
Did a search. Found two really old threads.
www.bigfooty.com
www.bigfooty.com
Another thread made a good point.....You know you're old when you realize you no longer can achieve your childhood dream.
The above threads both worth a read. Neither is a glib angle. Staying sexually attractive to a vital age range is so fundamental that when it starts waning it's crushing.
We always think we're invincible and have all the time in the world for everything....fulfilling our dreams, achieving our goals, correcting mistakes.
But decades sneak up on you, destroys sense of self-worth and possibility of happiness. The darkness of dealing with a midlife crisis.
How reaching 40-50+ is all about somehow finding purpose in your life now that your life has ceased holding purpose that exists only for the young.....
1) Accept that you're old looking. Accept wrinkles, gray hair, turkey neck. Worse is the onset of issues like arthritis, liver, bladder, bowel, cancer, etc. So stop sinking money into anti-aging creams that are not gonna help. Stop trying to look younger, pretending to still be younger. Embrace your age/appearance, and focus instead on your health. Exercise, good posture, slim, toned, active, learn to genuinely smile and give off rosy vibes.
2) Important to have money to sustain you thru 20+ years after retirement. But money is pointless without physical health. Maybe you need to keep working. Even to just exist and have a semblance of life.
3) Remember making friends is not organic anymore like it was teens-20s. Heart-breaking for older people trying to make friends, thinking it's just a matter of being out and about randomly interacting with people. Doesn't work that way anymore. 40-50+ realize you're unwanted. To make friends you have to join groups, particular social activities, book clubs, cooking classes, computer course, weekend wine tasting, etc.
4) Finding a new purpose in your life 40-50+ is different to what purpose seemed like at teens, at 20s, at 30s. Life has now passed you by is the cruel thing, dreams are vanquished. Teens+ life is all about expanding -- experiments,, experiences, travels, friends and networks, building business and wealth. But 40-50+ life is shrinking, shedding. It corresponds to mental status. A 40-50+ person needs to find a way to be productive and connected to society and the community, to feel called on and relied upon to pass on knowledge.
This is all that's left now for deriving purpose. Because if you instead genuinely feel disconnected, unproductive, unwanted, then mental breakdown and depression/suicide will occur. The world is an oyster for the young -- you're relevant, a key. But 40-50+ no one cares about you, no one wants you. It's so tragic.
Now imagine how much worse it could be if at 40-50+.......destitute, little savings, can't find work or no energy/desire, disconnected, unproductive, no family, parents, siblings, no spouse, kids, no friends, appearance of old age set in, the opposite sex cease looking, engaging. To realize it's over, but still 20-30 years to endure.
Every human life is like a different game of football.....sometimes win, some games a big lead all the way, or a tight game, or choked away a lead and lost, or from the very outset got trounced and never stood a chance to amend the game. Life-changing moments happen randomly, good and bad, irreversible.
It's so difficult to reconcile life when it turns out so bad.
Things that make you sad.
Things that make you feel old.
Did a search. Found two really old threads.
Social Science - Getting old
This is no picnic I tell you. I noticed the older I get the more people (of the same age) I cross off the list. It's well documented that the older people get the more right winged they get which is a massive frustration in itself. But want I don't get is the decent into: 1. High pants 2...
www.bigfooty.com
Pregnancy & Parenting - meeting younger girls as you get old
Getting into my late twenties and it seems the older i get the harder it is to tell how old girls are. Do you find this? There is a so hot girl who works at a drycleaning shop where i take my clothes. I think she must have left highschool cuz she is there at all times of the day. But she...
www.bigfooty.com
Another thread made a good point.....You know you're old when you realize you no longer can achieve your childhood dream.
The above threads both worth a read. Neither is a glib angle. Staying sexually attractive to a vital age range is so fundamental that when it starts waning it's crushing.
We always think we're invincible and have all the time in the world for everything....fulfilling our dreams, achieving our goals, correcting mistakes.
But decades sneak up on you, destroys sense of self-worth and possibility of happiness. The darkness of dealing with a midlife crisis.
How reaching 40-50+ is all about somehow finding purpose in your life now that your life has ceased holding purpose that exists only for the young.....
1) Accept that you're old looking. Accept wrinkles, gray hair, turkey neck. Worse is the onset of issues like arthritis, liver, bladder, bowel, cancer, etc. So stop sinking money into anti-aging creams that are not gonna help. Stop trying to look younger, pretending to still be younger. Embrace your age/appearance, and focus instead on your health. Exercise, good posture, slim, toned, active, learn to genuinely smile and give off rosy vibes.
2) Important to have money to sustain you thru 20+ years after retirement. But money is pointless without physical health. Maybe you need to keep working. Even to just exist and have a semblance of life.
3) Remember making friends is not organic anymore like it was teens-20s. Heart-breaking for older people trying to make friends, thinking it's just a matter of being out and about randomly interacting with people. Doesn't work that way anymore. 40-50+ realize you're unwanted. To make friends you have to join groups, particular social activities, book clubs, cooking classes, computer course, weekend wine tasting, etc.
4) Finding a new purpose in your life 40-50+ is different to what purpose seemed like at teens, at 20s, at 30s. Life has now passed you by is the cruel thing, dreams are vanquished. Teens+ life is all about expanding -- experiments,, experiences, travels, friends and networks, building business and wealth. But 40-50+ life is shrinking, shedding. It corresponds to mental status. A 40-50+ person needs to find a way to be productive and connected to society and the community, to feel called on and relied upon to pass on knowledge.
This is all that's left now for deriving purpose. Because if you instead genuinely feel disconnected, unproductive, unwanted, then mental breakdown and depression/suicide will occur. The world is an oyster for the young -- you're relevant, a key. But 40-50+ no one cares about you, no one wants you. It's so tragic.
Now imagine how much worse it could be if at 40-50+.......destitute, little savings, can't find work or no energy/desire, disconnected, unproductive, no family, parents, siblings, no spouse, kids, no friends, appearance of old age set in, the opposite sex cease looking, engaging. To realize it's over, but still 20-30 years to endure.
Every human life is like a different game of football.....sometimes win, some games a big lead all the way, or a tight game, or choked away a lead and lost, or from the very outset got trounced and never stood a chance to amend the game. Life-changing moments happen randomly, good and bad, irreversible.
It's so difficult to reconcile life when it turns out so bad.
