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MP_ said:
Bit of an update on my depression, about 6 weeks ago my marriage was almost over, I knew things weren’t that good and that we were both ignoring issues and just co living by our life. My mental health was not great and was progressively getting worse to the point I was having constant dark thoughts. For about 6 years I’ve been living with some horrible skeletons that very few knew about and I was just pushing it all inside (not a healthy thing to do) . So 6 weeks ago my daughter sent me a random message saying that she loves me and that she would choose me as her dad every single time. This broke me because if she knew the stuff about me then she wouldn’t think that way. Anyway I thanked her and told her it’s nice to feel loved (because I honestly hadn’t felt loved in a long time). That night my wife and I had a huge talk about everything and I mean absolutely everything. Things were revealed that I had no idea about, things I though were secrets were known by everyone close too me. Some had known only recently others for years. We talked genuinely for hours and I probably slept the best I ever have in ten years and it’s been great ever since. The amazing thing for me was that I was so concerned about judgement from everyone that just became a hermit when in fact no one’s be judged me at all, not my wife, parents , in laws or kids. They forgave me, they didn’t condone me but forgave me and Inturn I have now forgiven myself which has led me to finally be at peace and to move forward in my life with my marriage and my relationships with everyone around me.

TLDR- forgive yourself, ****ing talk.. as hard as it is you just need to do it, it’s uncomfortable it’s hard but it’s so important to do. Be open with your partner, I almost threw 24 years of marriage away because I wouldn’t talk and my wife was ready to walk.

I feel really good at the moment best I’ve felt in soo long.

Sorry for the long post but I don’t have a lot of real life people to tell and I really hope my post gives others hope.
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thanks for this
things arent great at home my side either
few diffs to you, like no kids
but ive been told to sort out what ever is going on in my head

im quite an introvert, not massively and i will go out and do things i like but id rather chill, movie, book, music etc
apparently thats not great and i need to be more sociable and get some mates so we can go out and do things
most times i just cant be ****ed with the stupid small talk that is just meaningless.
i also let little shit bother me which the other half absolutely hates, i do see the point on that and have begun working on not letting small stuff effect me, like why the hell would someone park next to you in an empty car park etc etc

ive been told im rude arrogant and totally self centred
pretty hard to take, especially when you cant see it
i guess not giving a **** about listening to someone dribble on about MAFS or whats happening at work and gossip means im all of that

my only outlet atm is the gym.
 
PoppedCorn said:
ive been told im rude arrogant and totally self centred
pretty hard to take, especially when you cant see it
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That's a pretty common theme for people with mental health or autism spectrum disorders.

You don't mean it, you don't even know you are acting like that.
 

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Run n Spread said:
Medical and work.
Needed referral but honestly was just as crazy as me.
I needed help but it ain't coming
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So if you pass the medical you will be OK to work without further tests?

Referral to who and who asked for it?
 
Electronic_Renaissance said:
That's a pretty common theme for people with mental health or autism spectrum disorders.

You don't mean it, you don't even know you are acting like that.
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Yeh but hang on ER
Before we start throwing the “disorders “ around the rest of what PC was saying is very normal

I lose my f*n mind when people park near me when there are a tonne of empty parks and I don’t really like small talk either .
And don’t even get me started on that MAFS shit , I don’t think I’ve ever even watched an episode but I hate it with a passion

See ……. Totally normal , rational behaviour 😁
 

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Madas said:
Yeh but hang on ER
Before we start throwing the “disorders “ around the rest of what PC was saying is very normal

I lose my f*n mind when people park near me when there are a tonne of empty parks and I don’t really like small talk either .
And don’t even get me started on that MAFS shit , I don’t think I’ve ever even watched an episode but I hate it with a passion

See ……. Totally normal , rational behaviour 😁
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Thanks mate lol
i have a few more to tick off, driving is one of them ( :rolleyes: )

i have access to a programme where i can talk to someone, and i have an appointment so we will see what that brings
 
PoppedCorn said:
Thanks mate lol
i have a few more to tick off, driving is one of them ( :rolleyes: )

i have access to a programme where i can talk to someone, and i have an appointment so we will see what that brings
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Autism isn't even regarded as a disorder now. Just a different brain functioning. My son has been diagnosed and it's helped him massively in regards to self identification and being able to access info on how and why his brain works in way it does. Doesn't fix it all but the understanding has been helpful to everyone. It's probably way more prevalent than society yet realises cos we're all taught to fit in above all else.

Definitely worth reading up on because it just might be the 'holy crap, that's me!' moment like my son had when he read the booklet on the way home. :hearts:
 
Shell said:
What makes me rage are the actual spaces seem to be getting smaller and narrower. I'm literally holding my breathe as I'm trying to get the stupid car dead centre it's that ****ing narrow
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And so many spaces taken up with huge tanks that you can't see past when you're trying to back out. Apparently a council in NSW wants car parks to charge $25 a day for big utes and 4WDs :)
 
PoppedCorn said:
thanks for this
things arent great at home my side either
few diffs to you, like no kids
but ive been told to sort out what ever is going on in my head

im quite an introvert, not massively and i will go out and do things i like but id rather chill, movie, book, music etc
apparently thats not great and i need to be more sociable and get some mates so we can go out and do things
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Hey mate thanks for opening up, something I just want to point out is that it’s perfectly fine to not be overly social. If you’re being told to change I personally don’t feel that’s right , sound like it’s more your partners problem than yours. I’m also not overly social however my wife who has a very public role in our region means I have to go to a lot of things that make me feel uncomfortable. She also realised that at times I won want to go so won’t even ask me. Maybe what you need to do is just organise social outings with just her. Relationships are give and take and we have to step out of comfort zones from time to time but she should also be understanding of what your personality type too and not make it seem like you are the problem. Happy to chat privately if you want.
 
Having been with someone for 19 years who constantly had a go at my personality and tried to change me (I too was also told I was arrogant, rude etc. when in reality i'm quiet, introverted and have crippling social anxiety at times)....never change. Be you. Always be you.
 

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