The hands of stone
Norm Smith Medallist
- Sep 13, 2020
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Hi all
After some advice regarding my wifes family , mainly her older sister .
Firstly I get on pretty well with them so no issues there .
My wife and her two sisters are close but the older has always fawned over the younger and in my opinion this has transferred to the kids .
Ill try not to create War and Peace again but here are some things Ive found really odd .
I want to chat to her about it but my father in law has pleaded with me not too
When we got covid , we got nothing ( bar covid )
Thats a very small sample . I find it all odd . My wife twice has bought it up , once got ignored and second time the elder sister played the ' i always get the blame' card .
My FIL is well aware of all this , but is a real dont rock the boat type person . Its very frustrating that he attends things and wont say anything.
I am mindful there is some mental health stuff going on but I really feel post xmas/nye I need to maie a stand here and chat to her and her husband .
Any thoughts or opinions welcomed
After some advice regarding my wifes family , mainly her older sister .
Firstly I get on pretty well with them so no issues there .
My wife and her two sisters are close but the older has always fawned over the younger and in my opinion this has transferred to the kids .
Ill try not to create War and Peace again but here are some things Ive found really odd .
I want to chat to her about it but my father in law has pleaded with me not too
- older sister bought personalised gifts for younger sisters kids at birth as well as there two cousins . But not my wife .
- older sister has assisted with baby sitting , organised sleepovers ......but has not invited our kids or ecer offereed us help. Even after we regularly babysat their kids
- straight after my 2 yo birthday party last year the elder sister organised for the rest of family to go to a cafe for coffee .
- my eldest daughter is 7 , not once has her eldest sister asked us over to catch up . We live 10 minutes from them .
- when they were sick this year , we made them soup . We didnt even get a thankyou , but they at least returned the container .
When we got covid , we got nothing ( bar covid )
- at least 3 times this year she has organised family catchups , we werent invited and one was 1 week before my birthday .
- its not uncommon for us to attend family gatherings and she will have zero interaction with our kids ........yet hugs and looks after the others including 2nd and 3rd cousins.
Thats a very small sample . I find it all odd . My wife twice has bought it up , once got ignored and second time the elder sister played the ' i always get the blame' card .
My FIL is well aware of all this , but is a real dont rock the boat type person . Its very frustrating that he attends things and wont say anything.
I am mindful there is some mental health stuff going on but I really feel post xmas/nye I need to maie a stand here and chat to her and her husband .
Any thoughts or opinions welcomed