Doris Lessing is absolutely correct. White Australia imho has still never recovered from the desecration of a generation which had so much promise, was better educated than any other period prior, and, for its time, more progressive than many of its counterparts.
Can you hear yourself / will anyone listen to that, forever.
You are most likely right about the four generation thing. I didn’t want to be too introspective but I do think my sons are COMPLETELY unscathed.Thanks Kimba as per usually is the case, you have given me the perfect hook, to hang off and swing from:
The received thought currently is that it actually takes four generations to erase intergenerational trauma.
(There are always exceptions to the rules and exceptional people. Nothing is ever set in stone because we are not machines and are unique in ourselves).
Making a concerted effort to deal with intergenerational trauma, as in deciding; I'm not going to do it that way, react that way, feel that way, be that way, consciously speeds the process along.
It all takes effort as change never comes without effort.
I will not use sacrifice here, as by using that word (concept) means ultimately you are including losses.
There are no losses only gains to be had, by making an effort to change oneself because in the end my friend(s) you only have any power over yourself.
As a metaphorical example:
Your Father does the rinsing the scraps from the plates etc. and stacking them on the sink.
You do the main washing and depending on how well your father did his job, depends on how much you have to scrub.
Your son does the rinse and stacking. (there maybe plates that get rejected and have to be returned to get bits missed off).
Their son does the drying (air drying is a relevancy here) and puts them away.
Ah you say but I have a dishwasher, I don't need to do the dishes by hand any longer.
Machines have their own drawbacks they are never perfectly designed unless you designed them yourself for your exact requirements:
1/they require power. (Resourses & money for therapy over generations)
2/they still need to be stacked and emptied. (labour is still required)
3/they have to use caustic chemicals (particularly rinsing aids) that leave residues that you will then consume and have deleterious long term affects.(drugs and alchohol)
4/If you don't want to be treated like a machine, with built in obsolescence and the next model ready on the production line, mechanical moving parts that need to be serviced, filters-everybody forgets to clean the filters-because they don't see them getting clogged up and all the other attendant issues in dealing with a machine.
Why have I just used doing the dishes as a metaphor for men (and their fathers).
Because they always complain about doing the dishes.
Why.
Why do they think, that they shouldn't do them, be thankful to do them, take pride in doing them.
If you're not going to do the dishes are you expecting a woman to (reference men blaming women for their own issues or expecting them to always carry the emotional load of their disaffections)
If you want to be a smartarse and say well I'll just use disposable plates, sure kick the can down the road and live with and sink into the mountain of refuse that creates.
No one taught me how to do the dishes/ I grew up with a dishwasher, well learn or keep whinging about it
Break all the dishes rather than clean them, that is the age old go to, violence, does it get you anywhere.
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P.S. MR Brian Oblivion is not totally off the scene. He has been blocked from only the SFA part of BF. He can see all the posts here but not like or comment and is elsewhere on the BF site (eg. St Kilda forum) and is on Direct Msg.
PPS. You all know that this is a general post and not aimed at anyone in particular.
PPPS. Nick Cave's choice of playing the Carnival is Over has resonnance considering his Mum died only recently and him coming back to Melbourne without her being here must be difficult. Or I'm too sensitive and it's actually his cynical take on how Melbourne has morphed. Or it's nothing but an appease the audience exercise...which I very much doubt unless all of a sudden he had a personality bypass. You never know.
Vale Mike Pinder.
Last of the Moody Blues.
Ok Ok OK I'm going to post a considered uncool song don't care I loved this album as a kid.
Mike Pinder, Founding Keyboardist of the Moody Blues, Dies at 82
His expertise on the electromechanical Mellotron helped define the band’s progressive sound in the 1960s and ’70s on albums like “Days of Future Passed.”www.nytimes.com
Well you'd know an Emerson Lake and Palmer because one of the sports / footy shows (Ch 9 ? ) used it.
And in that type of record collection in the 70's there was always this one.
Indeed.
She still is. And kudos to her for surviving the music industry, excesses and lousy boyfriends and still create. She was brave enough to say well **** you and go out and do her own albums, rather than be bullied into subsuming her talent and shine for anothers ego and not make waves in the band. Both she and Christine McVie were great role models and musicians who stood their ground and had each others backs despite the pressures of fame. Admirable.
